Most people say they’d never consider a long-distance relationship. But that’s usually before they don’t have a choice. (Hey, life’s full of curveballs.) And while we can all agree that LDRs aren’t ideal, they’re definitely not the end of the world—or even the death knell of your relationship. In fact, with the right mindset, the right tips, and the right managed expectations, you can have a long-distance relationship that thrives and grows stronger over time. So read on, and keep the spark alive! And for more relationship advice, check out these 30 Funniest Pieces of Celebrity Advice.
1. Set Clear Personal Boundaries
“First and foremost, you and your partner need to set some guidelines: what is acceptable, what isn’t,” says April Davis, relationship expert and Founder of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking. You don’t need us to tell you that boundaries related to fidelity are important, but it turns out that personal boundaries play a huge role in relationships from afar, as well. “Long distance relationships fail because of a lack of trust and invasion of space, even if it’s just virtual space.
2. Pretend You’re Single
Yup, for real. Aside from actually having a physical relationship with someone else, experts say you can pretty much behave however you want—kind of like when you were single. “Do what you want,” recommends Gabriella I. Farkas M.D., Ph.D., founder of Pearl Behavioral Health & Medicine. “Rejoice in your life and your accomplishments. Post pictures and statuses on social media about how you are and what you have been doing. Spend time with friends.” Basically, enjoy your life!
“The better you know and appreciate yourself, the better you can focus on knowing and appreciating your partner when you are together,” she says.
3. Never Spend More Than Three Months Apart
“Ideally every three months is the minimum,” says Rami Fu, a dating coach and expert, although your timeframe can vary as long as you agree on it together. “This is so you don’t forget why you love that person in the first place, and get some sex. It will also allow you to see how they evolve as a person.